A safety buddy is someone that you can call and let know where you're going to be and for how long, when you're going to see a NEW client.
You should tell your safety buddy when to expect a call from you to confirm that you made it to your outcall and that everything seems to be ok.
If your safety buddy hasn't received your call in a certain amount of time, he/she should try to call you, and if your safety buddy can't confirm your safety, have some kind of plan ready.
I know to some women, this might seem a little overly cautious, but one of the women that managed to escape the "Craig'sList Killer", was able to avoid being one of his victims by using this safety buddy system.
IT'S ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE, THAN SORRY!
Other ways to protect yourself are:
- Use a driver for security on outcalls if possible.
- Get a PO Box and have it placed on your Drivers license or State ID instead of your home address. You don't need potential stalker knowing your home address.
- Use a prepaid cell phone so there are no billing records where callers can use identity theft technology to uncover your real name and residence.
- Don't have any money, or valuables in the room you entertain clients in.
- Have a great discreet hiding spot.
- If you do an incall from a hotel, don't tell your client your room number until after he arrives and calls you to tell you he has arrived and you verified his arrival. This way you can look out to see if anyone else, or other vehicles, arrived with your appointment to determine if he's safe.
- Verify the outcall address through Google to make sure the address is real. Get a feel for the safety of the neighborhood. See if the house is in a good neighborhood or the house has been condemned, or you're being summoned to a vacant lot or an industrial park.
- When you arrive to an outcall, check your mirrors and all around you, before getting out of your vehicle and have pepper spray in your hand and a cell phone in the other if possible.
- Do NOT rely on your dates for transportation to and from your appointments. You don't want a complete stranger picking you up at your home, nor do you want to depend on him bringing you him if things don't work out.
- Outcall appointments are usually safer in an upscale hotel and not someone's home or flea bag motel.
- Don't book calls with any clients who want you to show up and do a car date.
- Always be extremely aware and in tune with your surroundings.
- Carry in your purse only what you need, and no personal ID or real information about yourself. No mail or bills, no check books, credit cards, bank deposit slips. Many bad clients are stalker types who seek to obtain your real name, your address, and your private phone number.
- Be confident and assertive from the moment you arrive. It's important to be in control and stay in control of the situation.
Be polite and friendly, it's often the best way to keep control even when the client is behaving like a jerk.
- Be aware of every thing your client is doing.
- If you sense trouble coming, try to avoid it. Change the conversation, always be pleasant.
- If the client starts talking down to you, or calling you bad names, turn things around, be assertive and take back control. Bad clients may test you to see what they can get away with and push you to those limits.
- Or if you can't alter the direction things are going. Take notice, find a polite reason to leave.
- Don’t drive to a far away call on an empty tank of gas and then depend on the call going though to give you gas money so you can fill up on the drive home. Many providers have stranded themselves that way.
- Do not drink beverages that you did not open yourself.
- Do not leave your beverage unattended.
- If you realize that your beverage has been left unattended, discard it.
- Don't trust offenders - Often aggressors will tell you that if you are quiet and do what they tell you to do then they won’t hurt you. If you believe this then you really are putting your life in their hands. If the chance arises to sneak out or bolt out the door, then get out of there. If after the attack the assailant attempts to take you to another location then statistics show you may not be coming back at all.