Saturday, May 28, 2016

The Devistating Effect of Bed Bugs

Bed Bugs have got to be the worst infestation that a person can have. I'd gladly welcome ants, fleas, lice, mice, termites, and even cockroaches in lieu of bed bugs, any day of the week.

Now you may be thinking to yourself, "as far as personal catastrophes go, a bedbug infestation sounds fairly minor". You might even wonder why it pops up in the headlines so often, alongside all of the other "real problems" people have...
Until, that is... it happens to you!

Then you find out it's A FUCKING NIGHTMARE.

I did, when bedbugs infested my home. I didn't even know they were real until someone told me what they were. I honestly thought it was just something people said to kids at night. (The phrase has a whole new dark meaning to me now.)

Bedbugs were first brought into the US by early colonists, where they thrived for many decades. However, by the 1950's, bed bugs had been all but eradicated in the developed world, thanks to the availability of new pest control products, coupled with the widespread use of vacuums and washing machines which helped to control the spread of infestations in living spaces.
But bedbug infestations have now been on the rise since in the late 1990's. So much so that's it becoming an epidemic again. A big reason for this ihmo, is because so many people are just like I was before I got them, which means there's a lack of public awareness about bedbug prevention methods.

(Increased international travel is also thought to be a main contributing factor in the rise of the bedbug epidemic.)

Nobody likes bed bugs and due to social stigma, nobody wants to talk about them, but it’s time we start. It can only get worse if we refuse to address the problem head on. I myself, feel like I'm on the brink of madness here. I'm too paranoid to get a good night's sleep, and I fall in the percentage of people who just so happen to be allergic to bedbug bites, and I have disgusting itchy red welts and scars on my body as a result.

The anxiety, depression, and sleep deprivation that this has caused has resulted in me not being on cam much lately.

I've been so afraid that someone will notice them and know what they are or simply find it such a turn off to look at, that they decide they'd rather not hang out in, or return to my chat room. I think it's horribly unfair that anyone should have to go through this and live in secrecy for fear of being looked down on or judged. So fuck it. I'm making an attempt to try to end the stigma, educate others, to help aid in prevention, and to let others who maybe going through the same ordeal, (but are to afraid to tell anyone) know that you are not alone.

Now before I go any further, let me debunk some rumors:

First of all, bedbug infestations have nothing to do with how clean you are. All classes of people, from all walks of life have experienced bedbug outbreaks. Even multimillionaires like Howard Stern aren't immune.They can infest everything from train seats to wallpaper to baseboards to your fucking alarm clock.
Bed bugs like to travel and are good hitchhikers. They will hide in suitcases, boxes and shoes to be near a food supply. They are elusive, nocturnal creatures. They can hide behind baseboards and in cracks, crevices, and folded areas of beds, bedding and adjacent furniture, especially mattresses and box springs. Bed bugs can also hide in electrical switch plates, picture frames, wallpaper and nearly anywhere inside a home, car, bus, or other shelter.

Bedbugs can live for up to a year and a half without feeding!

Bedbugs' s saliva contains an anesthetic that it injects into your body while they're feeding, so you can't even feel it when they bite you.

They will routinely travel as far as a 20-foot radius from their hiding places (and back) in one night to take a blood meal. Bedbugs are very adaptable. They move quickly, and can pass through much smaller openings or cracks, than most people expect. Even Ph.D. entomologists who work with live bedbugs for the first time are often surprised.

The amount of false information out there about bedbugs makes things much more difficult in eradicating the problem.

DON'T use foggers/bug bombs in an attempt to get rig of the problem all by your self. YOU MUST GET AN EXTERMINATOR!
(Foggers/bug bombs will only make things worse.)

You're going to need to do a lot of housekeeping and cleaning, because bedbugs can hide anywhere and everywhere, and pesticides can't be applied to everything you own. You'll need to get rid of ALL clutter, and launder everything that's washable in hot water.

You're also going to have to clear out all of your cabinet and dresser drawers for the exterminator to treat. And because of how long they can live (a year and a half) without feeding, you can also expect to be keeping ALL of your clothes, and other fabrics stored in air tight bags for the next 18 months. 

Taking the necessary steps to rid yourself of a bedbug infestation is going to cost an "arm and a leg". You will have to run everything you own through the dryer at least once a week, and you need to get the proper mattress, box spring, and (maybe) couch covers, specifically designed for bedbugs, which is expensive, but you have to do this if you truly want to give yourself a shot at beating this.

I'm trying my best right now, but I am truly at my wit's end, and this whole experience has left me feeling more alone than I have ever felt in my whole life.

This truly is the kind of shit that nightmares are made out of...

*Vacuum suitcases after returning from a vacation.
*Check your bed sheets for tell-tale blood spots.
*Consider bringing a large plastic trash bag to keep your suitcase in during hotel stays.
*Carry a small flashlight to assist you with quick visual inspections.
*Never bring second-hand furniture, especially mattresses and box springs, into a home without thoroughly examining for signs of a bed bug infestation. You might consider having a pest control professional inspect the furniture as it is difficult to detect an infestation if you are untrained.
*Regularly inspect areas where pets sleep for signs of bed bugs.
*Bed bugs are elusive creatures, so it is imperative to seek professional pest control to address an infestation.

If this post sounds familiar, well then it's probably because you might have already read this when I posted this anonymously on ACF. Yes that was me. When I first posted about this I was too embarrassed to come out publicly, but I realize now that I have nothing to be embarrassed about.
I have since moved from the last apartment that I lived in when I first wrote about the subject. I now have the problem again in my new place. I'm not sure if the place was already infested before I moved in, or if I brought them with me from my old place. When I moved in, I pretty much started over from scratch. I threw away almost everything I owned before moving in here for the specific purpose of not bringing those fuckers with me. But I suppose it's still possible that I could have over looked a bug or an egg on one of the few items I did take with me. (That's all it takes) 

So now it's back to the drawing board... Things are a little bit easier though now that I have my own washer and dryer in my new apartment. So I'm thankful for that. But I still have to get new beds (the beds I have now are "captains beds which are the worst kind of bed to have if you have bed bugs) , mattress encasements,  bedbug traps, and a shit ton of vacuum lock bags to store all of my belongings. Hiring an exterminator is only half of the battle, the other half is on me. Unfortunately times are tough right now, and I need a little help. If you've enjoyed this blog, or my other blog, MyFree MFC Profile Help, and would like to show your support, I have a wishlist on Amazon with the things I still need to get to help me fight this infestation. Or just retweeting this post for me would also be a big help as well.

For anyone who may be dealing with a bedbug nightmare of your own, check out this youtube channel I found that has lots of good info on how to get rid of them and what you will need.

I would just like to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to the angel who bought me the items I needed from my amazon wish list. I was crying tears of joy. Literally, I was blubbering like a baby.

Sunday, May 22, 2016

Tip of the Day: Put a Siren in your MFC News Feed

Putting one of these in your News Feeds on MFC makes them stand out more.
To do so just type :redsiren into your news feed.


Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Why We Should All Care about what Happened to @FinleyFawn

So last month a friend and fellow cam model FinleyFawn found herself the victim of both Parental Alienation and Discrimination by the family court for being a cam model.

Here's what happened...

Some of Finley's mail that had her stage name on it was sent to her ex husband's address. He already knew what she did for a living, but claimed he only just learned of her job when he received that piece of mail. The truth is that he didn't know her stage name until that piece of mail came. He finally had the info he needed to do a google search, found her twitter and clips4sale store, printed some screen shots, and then took them to the court and used it to get an emergency restraining order and temporary physical custody of their son. In the papers he filed with the court, he claimed that she was exposing their six year old son to sex work. Saying that she was performing live sex acts over the internet and filming porn movies with the bedroom door wide open while their son was home, in full view of him.

I'm telling you right now that those allegations are complete bull shit, and this a classic case of parental alienation. Being the victim of parental alienation myself, I can relate to what she's going through.

Parental alienation is a form of child abuse!  It's a group of behaviors that are damaging to children's mental and emotional well-being, and can interfere with a relationship of a child and either parent. These behaviors most often accompany high conflict marriages, separation or divorce.

These behaviors whether verbal or non-verbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, and/or the enemy, to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.

Parental alienation deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an alienating parent or other third person (like another family member, or even a well meaning mental health care worker) can become abusive to the child - as the alienating behaviors are disturbing, confusing and often frightening, to the child, and can rob the child of their sense of security and safety leading to maladaptive emotional or psychiatric reactions.

I'll tell you how I know that the allegations made by Finley's ex husband are bull shit too...

For the moth of July 2015, Finley was generous enough to take me and my daughters into her home (a lovely four bedroom, two bathroom, two story house) when we had nowhere else to go. What I can personally attest to is that I never witnessed her try to interfere with her ex's parenting time, she never spoke badly about her ex around her son, she and her current husband where nothing but loving and attentive parents when he was home with her, and she never exposed either her son or my daughters to anything "work related".

Finley says that this whole situation has done nothing but traumatize her son.

In my humble opinion, if Finley's ex truly had their son's best interest in mind, all of this trauma could have been avoided by simply approaching Finley in a respectable way and discussing his concerns with her parenting style like two mature adults.

It's really heart breaking to think about what Finley and her son are having to endure right now (as I mentioned earlier, I know what it feels like to be victim of an alienating parent).

Another thing that is really disturbing, is how Finley was completely discriminated against by the family court. The judge told Finley that it was pointless for her to tell her side of the story or present any of her evidence because she (the judge) had already made up her mind. I know that judges are pretty much "God" in their court room, and I guess that's what jury trials are for, but still... how a judge can conduct their court like that and still think that they are upholding due process is just beyond me.

This should be of concern to all of us, because if this can happen to Finley, this can happen to any one of us in the "adult entertainment industry" as well. And for those of you who aren't adult entertainers, know that this is much more than just a matter of protecting "sex workers rights"... It's actually a matter of protecting HUMAN RIGHTS! You can't cherry pick what rights should be protected based on morality. If we want to remain a free country, we have to protect ALL RIGHTS! But sadly, not enough people seem to understand this.

"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

I wish all the best for Finley and her son, as well as all other victims of parental alienation and sex worker discrimination, and pray that everyone will find the justice they seek soon.

 "Justice delayed is justice denied." - William E. Gladstone

Saturday, March 5, 2016

Tip of the Day: @clips4sale is your BEST Friend

Open up a studio on if you don't already have one.
Then invest in a cell phone that records video in high definition, and a mini tripod so you can make fetish clips EVERYWHERE!