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Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Sunday, May 22, 2016
Wednesday, May 18, 2016
Why We Should All Care about what Happened to @FinleyFawn
Here's what happened...
Some of Finley's mail that had her stage name on it was sent to her ex husband's address. He already knew what she did for a living, but claimed he only just learned of her job when he received that piece of mail. The truth is that he didn't know her stage name until that piece of mail came. He finally had the info he needed to do a google search, found her twitter and clips4sale store, printed some screen shots, and then took them to the court and used it to get an emergency restraining order and temporary physical custody of their son. In the papers he filed with the court, he claimed that she was exposing their six year old son to sex work. Saying that she was performing live sex acts over the internet and filming porn movies with the bedroom door wide open while their son was home, in full view of him.
I'm telling you right now that those allegations are complete bull shit, and this a classic case of parental alienation. Being the victim of parental alienation myself, I can relate to what she's going through.
Parental alienation is a form of child abuse! It's a group of behaviors that are damaging to children's mental and emotional well-being, and can interfere with a relationship of a child and either parent. These behaviors most often accompany high conflict marriages, separation or divorce.
These behaviors whether verbal or non-verbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, and/or the enemy, to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.
Parental alienation deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an alienating parent or other third person (like another family member, or even a well meaning mental health care worker) can become abusive to the child - as the alienating behaviors are disturbing, confusing and often frightening, to the child, and can rob the child of their sense of security and safety leading to maladaptive emotional or psychiatric reactions.
I'll tell you how I know that the allegations made by Finley's ex husband are bull shit too...
For the moth of July 2015, Finley was generous enough to take me and my daughters into her home (a lovely four bedroom, two bathroom, two story house) when we had nowhere else to go. What I can personally attest to is that I never witnessed her try to interfere with her ex's parenting time, she never spoke badly about her ex around her son, she and her current husband where nothing but loving and attentive parents when he was home with her, and she never exposed either her son or my daughters to anything "work related".
Finley says that this whole situation has done nothing but traumatize her son.In my humble opinion, if Finley's ex truly had their son's best interest in mind, all of this trauma could have been avoided by simply approaching Finley in a respectable way and discussing his concerns with her parenting style like two mature adults.
It's really heart breaking to think about what Finley and her son are having to endure right now (as I mentioned earlier, I know what it feels like to be victim of an alienating parent).
Another thing that is really disturbing, is how Finley was completely discriminated against by the family court. The judge told Finley that it was pointless for her to tell her side of the story or present any of her evidence because she (the judge) had already made up her mind. I know that judges are pretty much "God" in their court room, and I guess that's what jury trials are for, but still... how a judge can conduct their court like that and still think that they are upholding due process is just beyond me.
This should be of concern to all of us, because if this can happen to Finley, this can happen to any one of us in the "adult entertainment industry" as well. And for those of you who aren't adult entertainers, know that this is much more than just a matter of protecting "sex workers rights"... It's actually a matter of protecting HUMAN RIGHTS! You can't cherry pick what rights should be protected based on morality. If we want to remain a free country, we have to protect ALL RIGHTS! But sadly, not enough people seem to understand this.
"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
I wish all the best for Finley and her son, as well as all other victims of parental alienation and sex worker discrimination, and pray that everyone will find the justice they seek soon.
"Justice delayed is justice denied." - William E. Gladstone
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Saturday, March 5, 2016
Tip of the Day: @clips4sale is your BEST Friend
Open up a studio on 
if you don't already have one.
if you don't already have one.
Then invest in a cell phone that records video in high definition, and a mini tripod so you can make fetish clips EVERYWHERE!
Wednesday, February 10, 2016
The Camgirl Report endorses @CamgirlToolkit
I just wanted to let everyone know about an awesome website called Camgirl Toolkit. They are also an awesome twitter account to follow as well, with daily tweets about cam modeling advice, tips & tricks.
Check out the more detailed post I made about them yesterday on my other blog MyFree MFC Profile Help.
Here's just a few of her knowledgeable tweets:
(Click on images for larger view)
Check out the more detailed post I made about them yesterday on my other blog MyFree MFC Profile Help.
Here's just a few of her knowledgeable tweets:
(Click on images for larger view)
Friday, August 21, 2015
Camgirls, this is a must read!!!
(This was too inspirational not to re-post)
There are those days when you get an insanely huge tip and practically want to cry.
When EVERYONE wants to take you private.
When your chat room is full of so many people that you can't possibly respond to them all.
When everyone wants you, compliments you, and makes you feel like a total babe.
And you DO feel like a total babe.
You've got the wind (from a fan) blowing in your hair, the light hits you just right, and your makeup in on point.
And even if you don't feel like you look perfect, the positive response in your chat room and the constant flow of tips make you feel like you're doing something right.
This thread is not about those days.
This is for the nights when you only made $7 and you feel like shit.
When your ranking on the site tanks, or doesn't climb the way you wanted it to.
The reality is that you are selling a part of yourself, so when they aren't buying, it can make you wonder... what's wrong with me?
Am I not pretty enough, creative enough, funny enough, smart enough, explicit enough?
Do I need a better webcam, better sound, better lighting, better clothes, better toys, better everything?
I want you to know that whether you made $1 tonight or $10,000, it does not change your value.
The only thing that determines your value is what YOU think of you.
There's going to be slow nights. And slow months. And maybe even slower years.
Some of this is within our control, and some of it's not.
Feel free to bring your A game - upgrade your tech, make up a new game, create some content.
Just know that you ARE enough, just as you are.
No ranking on a cam site, or number of dollars or tokens can ever determine your true value.
Don't compromise your values or level of comfort to make money. Let go of caring what others think of you and your inner spark and beautiful awesomeness will shine like a 5-carat diamond.
When the viewers see your spark, the real you.... the way your eyes light up when you talk about something you're interested in, when you find something genuinely funny, or when you are truly truly turned on because you're keeping the sexual activity to things that do it for you... the dollars flow.
And when the dollars don't flow - remember that it's not about you.
You are enough (and so am I.)
Love always,
Mojito
Inspirational Writer & (new-ish) Cam Girl
Link to OP: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/cam-girls-you-are-enough-public-post.21825/
There are those days when you get an insanely huge tip and practically want to cry.
When EVERYONE wants to take you private.
When your chat room is full of so many people that you can't possibly respond to them all.
When everyone wants you, compliments you, and makes you feel like a total babe.
And you DO feel like a total babe.
You've got the wind (from a fan) blowing in your hair, the light hits you just right, and your makeup in on point.
And even if you don't feel like you look perfect, the positive response in your chat room and the constant flow of tips make you feel like you're doing something right.
This thread is not about those days.
This is for the nights when you only made $7 and you feel like shit.
When your ranking on the site tanks, or doesn't climb the way you wanted it to.
Am I not pretty enough, creative enough, funny enough, smart enough, explicit enough?
Do I need a better webcam, better sound, better lighting, better clothes, better toys, better everything?
I want you to know that whether you made $1 tonight or $10,000, it does not change your value.
The only thing that determines your value is what YOU think of you.
There's going to be slow nights. And slow months. And maybe even slower years.
Some of this is within our control, and some of it's not.
Feel free to bring your A game - upgrade your tech, make up a new game, create some content.
Just know that you ARE enough, just as you are. No ranking on a cam site, or number of dollars or tokens can ever determine your true value.
Don't compromise your values or level of comfort to make money. Let go of caring what others think of you and your inner spark and beautiful awesomeness will shine like a 5-carat diamond.
When the viewers see your spark, the real you.... the way your eyes light up when you talk about something you're interested in, when you find something genuinely funny, or when you are truly truly turned on because you're keeping the sexual activity to things that do it for you... the dollars flow.
And when the dollars don't flow - remember that it's not about you.
You are enough (and so am I.)
Love always,
Mojito
Inspirational Writer & (new-ish) Cam Girl
Link to OP: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/cam-girls-you-are-enough-public-post.21825/
Sunday, May 31, 2015
COCONUT OIL: THE BEST STUFF EVER!
Many of us know that coconut oil is great for use in the kitchen, it's...
- Great for baking, stir-frys or as a dairy free replacement to butter.
- As a coffee creamer when emulsified into coffee
- In homemade Mayo without the high PUFA vegetable oils
- As a replacement for vegetable oils in any recipe or in cooking
- To season cast iron skillets
But did you know that it's also...
HEALTHY FOOD FOR BRAIN, ENERGY, & WEIGHT LOSS
- Mix a tablespoon with a tablespoon of chia seeds for an all-day energy boost (do NOT take this at night!)
- Use to make coconut cream concentrate for a brain boosting snack
- Can help speed weight loss when consumed daily
- Is an immediate source of energy when eaten that isn’t stored as fat
- It’s high Lauric acid and MCFA content helps boost metabolism
- To support healthy thyroid function
- In healthy brain boosting snack like Coconut Clusters
- In a filling and energy boosting Brain Power Smoothie
- Can help improve insulin levels
- Added to foods or drinks daily for energy
- There is some evidence that regular ingestion of coconut oil can help prevent or reverse Alzheimers
Here's More Uses for Coconut Oil You May Not Know about...
CLEANING
NATURAL PESTICIDE
- With apple cider vinegar as a natural treatment for lice that actually works
- In Homemade Natural Bug-Off Lotion Bars
- Mixed with catnip, rosemary, or mint essential oils as a natural bug repellent
HYGIENE
- By itself as a natural deodorant
- By itself or with baking soda as a naturally whitening toothpaste
SKIN CARE & BEAUTY
- To help increase sun tolerance and avoid burning
- As a naturally SPF 4 sunscreen
- By itself as a great tanning oil
- On cuticles to help nails grow
- Many use it as an anti-aging facial moisturizer
- On hands after doing dishes to avoid dry skin
- Can help resolve acne when used regularly
- Can be rubbed into scalp daily to stimulate hair growth
- Mixed with salt to remove dry skin on feet
- Rub into elbows daily to help alleviate dry, flaky elbows
- To help avoid chlorine exposure when swimming
- As a natural shave cream and after shave lotion
- When used consistently on skin it can help get rid of cellulite
- Can help reduce appearance of varicose veins
- As an incredibly intensive natural conditioner- Rub into dry hair, put a shower cap on and leave for several hours
- Mixed with equal parts sugar for a smoothing body scrub (use in the shower)
- Rubbed on lips as a natural chap stick
- A tiny dab rubbed on your hands and then through hair will help get rid of frizz
- Can help sooth psoriasis or eczema
- As an eye-makeup remover
- To lighten age spots when rubbed directly on the skin
- To prevent stretch marks during pregnancy
- On the skin as a basic lotion (or coconut oil lotion bar)
MEDICINAL
- A tablespoon melted into a cup of warm tea can help sooth a sore throat
- To help sooth the itch of chicken pox or poison ivy
- Can be used internally and externally to speed recovery from UTIs
- In a salve for cracked heels
- Can relieve the pain of hemorrhoids when used topically
- Naturally clears up cold sores
- It’s anti-inflammatory properties can help lessen arthritis
- Can reduce the itch of mosquito bites
- Blend a tablespoon into hot tea to help speed recovery from cold or flu
- After initial heat is gone, can help speed healing of sunburn
- Rub coconut oil on the inside of your nose to help alleviate allergy symptoms
- Topically, can help skin heal faster after injury or infection
- Topically to kill yeast or yeast infections
MENTAL HEALTH
- Can help improve sleep when taken daily
- Some evidence shows that the beneficial fats in coconut oil can help with depression and anxiety
SEXUAL
- As a tropical massage oil
- As a natural personal lubricant that won’t disturb vaginal flora
A big thank you to Katie of Wellness Mama for sourcing the majority of the info in this post on her wonderful blog
Saturday, February 21, 2015
MFC is Cracking Down on Cam Shows in Public
Well in case anyone hasn't yet heard of the big crack down from MFC about not letting models do cam shows in public any more, here is why...
this is a bit funny pic.twitter.com/AGwru1dGzG
— KickAz (@kickazmfc) February 21, 2015
@Official_Kink @MFJ500 @JujuLuvsLife well all I know is a received a warning & I haven't cammed in over a month. pic.twitter.com/o3E4wPSQYF
— Ava Kittyn (@AvaKittyn_MFC) February 12, 2015
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
How to make Money on the Internet!
So being a cam model is a great way to make money on the internet, but there are other ways to make money online as well. I'm going to share with you some more ways to make money over the internet besides cam shows and/or uploading fetish clips.
Note: for some of these, your going to need a PayPal account.
Youtube.com
Here's a great article on how to make money on youtube
Adsense.com
AdSense is a nice way to monetize your traffic, and very easy to implement. It's one of my top earners and has been since 2003.
Google.com earns most of its revenue by allowing other website owners to advertise on their search results pages. All this is managed through a program they call AdWords (pay per click marketing). You see these ads displayed above the free/organic results and along the right side of the page on Google.com.
These are called Sponsored Results, and the advertisers are paying a certain amount of money per click for these ads. It's an auction-based system that allows advertisers to compete for those spots. Whomever has the highest bid and most "quality" ad, gets the top spot and so forth.
Now you can earn a share of the revenue that Google earns from AdWords by displaying these same text or image ads on your site. When someone clicks, you earn roughly 68% of the click and Google gets the rest.
This program is called AdSense.
It's a great program that can help you drive additional income to your website -- especially if it's mostly content based.
How Does AdSense Work?
The concept is simple. You display ads and get paid when people click and sometimes just view the ad (usually it's mostly clicks, though.)
How Much Can You Earn With AdSense?
The commission you receive per click depends on how much advertisers are paying Google for the particular ad. You will earn a share of that amount. I've heard of earnings anywhere from 2 cents to $15 per click.
Getting over $1 is probably very rare, although it does happen from time to time. However, you will find that most of your earnings will be on the lower end of the spectrum.
To learn more click here.
LivePerson.com
Do you have an expertise in a certain subject? Before I became a cam model I worked on liveperson.com (formerly known as kasamba.com), a website that allows you to charge money for your talking time. In short, you list what areas you have life experience/general expertise in, and list your price per minute. You can also charge per email. (The psychics and tarot readers make the most money on that site imho) You get paid out by paypal, or they send you a check.
Zazzle.com
For those of you who love making graphic designs, you can make money buy putting your art on things like tshirts, bumper stickers, and more... I found this one the most fun, but not the most profitable. But hey it's still an awesome way to express yourself through your artwork and make a little something on the side. I believe you need paypal to get cashed out with this one though. Or you can just buy other items from their site.
Qmee.com
Interested in earning cash for doing what you already do online? This has to be one of the easiest methods of making money online without really any effort or change in your behavior.
This innovative idea by Qmee.com rewards you for searching in Google, Bing or Yahoo. You just install a simple add-on to your browser and when you conduct a search there may be a few sponsored results alongside your normal search.
Each Qmee result has a cash reward attached – if you are interested in it simply click on it and collect your reward.
The best thing is there is no minimum to cash out. The down side is, you can only cash out through PayPal.
You also have the option to donate it to charity.
OpinionOutPost.com
OK this is the first survey website I've found that isn't some scam site trying to dick me around. Although it only pays cash through paypal, or you can be paid in Amazon gift cards, Itunes gift cards, frequent flyer miles, Alawar games, prize drawing entries, or donate to the Red Cross.
There are lots of other ways to make money on the internet, the ones I listed are just the ones that I have some personal experience with.
If you'd like to see a great article with lots of more ways to make money over the internet click here.
Learn how to get more money for your Streamate referrals by clicking here.
Note: for some of these, your going to need a PayPal account.
Youtube.com
Here's a great article on how to make money on youtube
Adsense.com
AdSense is a nice way to monetize your traffic, and very easy to implement. It's one of my top earners and has been since 2003.
Google.com earns most of its revenue by allowing other website owners to advertise on their search results pages. All this is managed through a program they call AdWords (pay per click marketing). You see these ads displayed above the free/organic results and along the right side of the page on Google.com.
These are called Sponsored Results, and the advertisers are paying a certain amount of money per click for these ads. It's an auction-based system that allows advertisers to compete for those spots. Whomever has the highest bid and most "quality" ad, gets the top spot and so forth.
Now you can earn a share of the revenue that Google earns from AdWords by displaying these same text or image ads on your site. When someone clicks, you earn roughly 68% of the click and Google gets the rest.
This program is called AdSense.
It's a great program that can help you drive additional income to your website -- especially if it's mostly content based.
How Does AdSense Work?
The concept is simple. You display ads and get paid when people click and sometimes just view the ad (usually it's mostly clicks, though.)
How Much Can You Earn With AdSense?
The commission you receive per click depends on how much advertisers are paying Google for the particular ad. You will earn a share of that amount. I've heard of earnings anywhere from 2 cents to $15 per click.
Getting over $1 is probably very rare, although it does happen from time to time. However, you will find that most of your earnings will be on the lower end of the spectrum.
To learn more click here.
LivePerson.com
Do you have an expertise in a certain subject? Before I became a cam model I worked on liveperson.com (formerly known as kasamba.com), a website that allows you to charge money for your talking time. In short, you list what areas you have life experience/general expertise in, and list your price per minute. You can also charge per email. (The psychics and tarot readers make the most money on that site imho) You get paid out by paypal, or they send you a check.
Zazzle.com
For those of you who love making graphic designs, you can make money buy putting your art on things like tshirts, bumper stickers, and more... I found this one the most fun, but not the most profitable. But hey it's still an awesome way to express yourself through your artwork and make a little something on the side. I believe you need paypal to get cashed out with this one though. Or you can just buy other items from their site.
Qmee.com
Interested in earning cash for doing what you already do online? This has to be one of the easiest methods of making money online without really any effort or change in your behavior.
This innovative idea by Qmee.com rewards you for searching in Google, Bing or Yahoo. You just install a simple add-on to your browser and when you conduct a search there may be a few sponsored results alongside your normal search.
Each Qmee result has a cash reward attached – if you are interested in it simply click on it and collect your reward.
The best thing is there is no minimum to cash out. The down side is, you can only cash out through PayPal.
You also have the option to donate it to charity.
OpinionOutPost.com
OK this is the first survey website I've found that isn't some scam site trying to dick me around. Although it only pays cash through paypal, or you can be paid in Amazon gift cards, Itunes gift cards, frequent flyer miles, Alawar games, prize drawing entries, or donate to the Red Cross.
There are lots of other ways to make money on the internet, the ones I listed are just the ones that I have some personal experience with.
If you'd like to see a great article with lots of more ways to make money over the internet click here.
Learn how to get more money for your Streamate referrals by clicking here.
Sunday, December 7, 2014
13 Absolute "No-No's" when Meeting a ProDomme for the First Time!!!
You’ve thought about it for a long time, you’ve searched and now you’ve found the Domme that will “pop your cherry” and introduce you to that oh so craved world of BDSM. Well good for you! In this article we’re going to list and explain some of the biggest mistakes first timers make when approaching a professional dominatrix and hopefully we’ll save you some embarrassment and disappointment.
NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT
One of the most annoying things for a pro-domme is her client’s not knowing what they want when they call and ask a million questions like:
“I’m not sure what I want…
“Can you give me some ideas?”
Sure the world of BDSM is very vast and the opportunities are endless, but anybody and everybody should have at least a vague idea of what they are looking to achieve during a session.
Do you want to get spanked?
Do you like to worship feet?
Do you want to be tied up, humiliated, and punished?
Or maybe you have a specific fetish??
Professional dommes often have a list of the services they engage in on their personal websites. Do yourself a favor and read those very carefully before initiating any contact with a dominatrix. This way if you don’t see your “thing”, then you can just keep searching and avoid wasting everyone’s time. Remember, there is nothing wrong about not being sure of your desires, just take some time to really think and research before you pick up your phone or start writing that email.Picture of Goddess Fae
One last thing before we wrap this part up. If you’re calling your mistress simply because you’re horny, you’re in big trouble. Dominatrices are not sex workers!!! They will not satisfy your sexual needs!!!
BE SURE YOU ARE READY
First time clients tend to have a very high flake rate. This may be caused by a list of factors such as nervousness, indecisiveness and/or fear. However none of these are really an excuse to flake on your domme! Here are some things to take under consideration before you decided to not show up for your appointment. Your domme probably took a great deal of time to prepare and pamper herself for your time together. She probably turned down other clients so she can see you. If you do not show up for your appointment, you will most likely never be able to schedule another one in the future. Another thing to consider is that dommes often have “black list” or “flake lists” of clients that they share with other dommes. Once you get on that list, you’re done!!! Always keep in mind, if you disappoint your domme before you even meet her your chances of ever being in the company of ANY domme are slim to none. Professional dommes often don’t give second chances and they absolutely despise their time being wasted!
BE RESPECTFUL
Dominatrices are used to being treated with a great respect. Always be polite, always address your mistress by Mistress, Goddess or whatever she prefers, if you are not sure, ask, politely. NEVER EVER call a domme “baby”, “sweetie”, “hunny” or anything related to those! This will make your domme very, very angry and unhappy with you!
Don’t ever argue or try to negotiate with her boundaries. If her website strictly says that she doesn’t do something, don’t call her and ask anyway. You are not an exception to her rules! Begging or negotiating boundaries is pathetic and will not get you anywhere!
Don’t call your mistress after her listed working hours. This is another sign of disrespect and red flag for her. If she doesn’t accept texts, don’t text her. If she doesn’t respond to blocked numbers, don’t be a smart ass and block your number. If your domme has her hours of availability listed and you’ve read them, don’t ask for an appointment outside of these hours. Respect ALL limits, rules and etiquette! If she requires 24 hour notice for booking, don’t contact her at 2pm and ask for a session at 3pm. If she requires information for her screening, provide her with it and make sure it is as accurate as possible. Not following instructions and being disrespectful is a sign of ignorance and stupidity. If she has to refer you to her website after each of your questions, you have failed!
CONTACTING YOUR DOMME NO ONE LINERS, NO FREE PHONE SEX
Once you’ve educated yourself on all of the requests and etiquette of the domme you selected to “pop your cherry” you can initiate the contact. Here are a few things you should be mindful of and never do during this process.
If you are contacting a domme via phone always begin with introducing yourself by first and last name and right after that let her know where you found her ad and what your interest is. Don’t elaborate too much. A simple “I am interested in the session you offer” is enough for her to get an idea of what you’re looking for. Never ask a domme “Is this…?”!!! You are the one who called her, so you have be the one presenting yourself and your purpose and listening very careful to her instructions and guidance. A few other no-brainers are: Don’t interrupt her, don’t ever ask for anything illegal and always address her as Mistress, Miss, Madame, Goddess etc. Another huge pet peeve dommes have is clients calling with questions like:
“What are you gonna do to me?”
This instantly puts you in the “bad client” list. It normally means you are looking for free phone sex, and dommes know it. You won’t get it!!! All you’ll probably end up with is a cold response, quick hang up and your dick in your hand…Oh and any chances of actually being in the presence of that domme are out the door. If you’re too nervous to meet for a session or you just want one over the phone, you will have to pay. Most dommes have the option to session over the phone and they have their prices for that service listed on their website. So be a doll and just follow the rules!
Often time’s dommes do not like to be contacted by phone. In that case look for an email or a form to fill out. One of the biggest rookie mistakes you can make when approaching a dominatrix via email is to write her one or two word emails. Things like “HI...”, “I want a session…”, or “You’re hot…” will most likely piss of your Domme and guarantee your email to be deleted without even a second look. Contacts like this say a lot about the person who writes them and every professional domme knows it. Firstly, it shows little to no respect for the process. Most of the time dominatrices have a personal website that they urge you to visit and read through before initiating a contact. If you didn’t take the time to read their website, why should she take the time to respond to you?!? Second, it shows your inability to follow instructions and obey simple rules. If you can’t do that, then you will probably not follow the directions your domme gives you during your session. Last but not least, it tells the provider you are not really serious and/or ready to dive into the world of domination. To sum this up, if you think you’re ready for your first encounter with a dominatrix, the number one rule is very simple -READ HER WEBSITE!!!
PERSONAL SLAVE = BROKE = NO DOMME
If you are so broke or cheap and you can’t afford to tribute your domme, but still decide to approach her with some question in the lines of “Can I be your personal slave?” or “How may I serve you (Without actually paying you for it)?” Be prepared for not so pleasant response, if you even get rewarded with one… If a prodomme needs a personal slave or someone to serve her for free, chances are she already has not just one, but a few of those. The lesson to learn here is, don’t be cheap, because the services and the company of a professional dominatrix aren’t!! If you can’t afford it at the moment, wait, save and then contact…
There are better alternatives then asking a pro to do her job for free. Here are some useful tips on what you can do instead of bugging your local dommes for free stuff:
Become active in your local BDSM community. Explore fetish parties, events and BDSM classes
Have a talk with your partner and see if they are interested in exploring some BDSM activities with you.
Find a partner that is open to BDSM
DO NOT NEGOTIATE OR ASK FOR A DISCOUNT…DOMMES HATE LOWBALLERS
Never contact a dominatrix and give them a shopping list of things you want in your session, then offer a very low rate. This just pisses her off and you may not even get a return email. Imagine if you went to a restaurant and wanted to order $300 worth of food and wine then you explain to your waiter you only have $50. Obviously, that would never work and you and I both know you would never ever try something like that, so don’t assume that will work with your prodomme. Haggling or negotiating over her prices is a huge RED flag, most dommes will see it as a sign of major disrespect and that you are probably not someone she wants as a client. If a domme is offering any discounts or multiple services, she will let you know. You asking for it may get you in big trouble. But then, maybe that’s exactly what you’re looking for…
CAN I…..
Just STOP right now! If you are about to ask a pro-domme any question related to any sexual activity, better just assume that the answer is no. Most professional dommes have very strict rules about engaging in any sort of sexual activity or nudity on their part. This is also one of the main things listed on their personal website. Asking a dominatrix for sex is probably the rudest, most disrespectful thing to do! That means you assume they are an escort, and oh man are you wrong!!! ProDommes are NOT escorts! Just because you saw some porno online where the dominatrix had sex with her submissive, does not mean that is going to EVER happen in real life, so never ask or assume. There are plenty of escorts who offer some sort of fetish related services and even some who specialize in combining sex with femdom, contact them if you are seeking that.
IF YOU NEED TO CANCEL…
You’ve passed the initial contact with your domme, you were lucky enough to set up your first appointment, good for you!!! Now you probably think, “I’m in! Nothing can go wrong anymore.” Not so fast! We all know that sometimes life happens, and plans get interfered with. The day of your appointment you get stuck in a meeting/traffic or you simply get nervous and petrified. That’s ok. Get ahold of your domme as soon as possible and let her know of your circumstances. Be respectful, apologize, especially if you are about to cancel. If you had to cancel, one of the best way to make up for a cancelled session is to send a gift to your domme. Visit her website, check out her wishlist, send an email gift certificate or simply send her the gift of cash via PayPal. Any of those will put you back on the good side and will buy you mercy.
DON’T BE LATE
Don’t be late and always show up on time! If the location of your domme is in a high traffic area, take that into account and leave early. We do understand that accidents and other unforeseen acts of nature do happen, which is fine, however what is not fine is not to call your domme who is sitting, waiting and thinking you flaked! Most dominatrices schedule sessions back to back, if you show up late don’t expect to get your full session, and do expect to be charged for a full session price.
DON’T BE EARLY
Never show up early…ever! Discretion is a big part of this business and to show up early is just plain rude. Understand, that she may be in a session with another client, or maybe she is still getting ready. If your meeting place is a dungeon then maybe the room she booked for your session is not ready yet. If for some reason you happen to be early ALWAYS contact her first, and request if she can see you earlier. Sometimes it is not an issue, or even preferable, but always ask first.
HYGIENE
TAKE A SHOWER!!! We realize that this may sound too obvious to even mention, but we want to stress the importance of your hygiene. All dommes take very great care of themselves and always make sure they are at their best when in session with a client and they expect the same in return.
NEVER ASK FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION
When seeing your Domme don’t ever ask for personal information such as
“Are you married?”
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
“Do your parents know you do this type of work?”
Or probably the most hated question:
“What else do you do?”
Think about what comes out of your mouth before you speak. None of that information is any of your business, and in regards to the question “What else do you do?” – Seriously, you just paid me a huge sum of money in a very short amount of time, why would you think I have any other job, and even if I did have a regular job do you think it is any of your business! Last thing a domme needs is having a customer show up at their place of work.
TIPPING – IS NOT JUST A CITY IN CHINA
At the end of your session, if you had an absolute great time - tell your domme. She will appreciate it. Don’t call after your session to thank her! An email or a text message is enough. One of the best ways to show how much you appreciated her time and/or enjoyed the session is by tipping. You may not know this, but if your session took a place in a Dungeon, your domme is probably paying a fee to use that space, and most often than not those are pretty pricy. A tip in that case is very much appreciated. A respectful tip is $20, $50 is considered a good tip. Don’t tip less than $20!
Article By: Shea Blackwell on Google+
NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT
One of the most annoying things for a pro-domme is her client’s not knowing what they want when they call and ask a million questions like:
“I’m not sure what I want…
“Can you give me some ideas?”
Sure the world of BDSM is very vast and the opportunities are endless, but anybody and everybody should have at least a vague idea of what they are looking to achieve during a session.
Do you want to get spanked?
Do you like to worship feet?
Do you want to be tied up, humiliated, and punished?
Or maybe you have a specific fetish??
Professional dommes often have a list of the services they engage in on their personal websites. Do yourself a favor and read those very carefully before initiating any contact with a dominatrix. This way if you don’t see your “thing”, then you can just keep searching and avoid wasting everyone’s time. Remember, there is nothing wrong about not being sure of your desires, just take some time to really think and research before you pick up your phone or start writing that email.Picture of Goddess Fae
One last thing before we wrap this part up. If you’re calling your mistress simply because you’re horny, you’re in big trouble. Dominatrices are not sex workers!!! They will not satisfy your sexual needs!!!
BE SURE YOU ARE READY
First time clients tend to have a very high flake rate. This may be caused by a list of factors such as nervousness, indecisiveness and/or fear. However none of these are really an excuse to flake on your domme! Here are some things to take under consideration before you decided to not show up for your appointment. Your domme probably took a great deal of time to prepare and pamper herself for your time together. She probably turned down other clients so she can see you. If you do not show up for your appointment, you will most likely never be able to schedule another one in the future. Another thing to consider is that dommes often have “black list” or “flake lists” of clients that they share with other dommes. Once you get on that list, you’re done!!! Always keep in mind, if you disappoint your domme before you even meet her your chances of ever being in the company of ANY domme are slim to none. Professional dommes often don’t give second chances and they absolutely despise their time being wasted!
BE RESPECTFUL
Dominatrices are used to being treated with a great respect. Always be polite, always address your mistress by Mistress, Goddess or whatever she prefers, if you are not sure, ask, politely. NEVER EVER call a domme “baby”, “sweetie”, “hunny” or anything related to those! This will make your domme very, very angry and unhappy with you!
Don’t ever argue or try to negotiate with her boundaries. If her website strictly says that she doesn’t do something, don’t call her and ask anyway. You are not an exception to her rules! Begging or negotiating boundaries is pathetic and will not get you anywhere!
Don’t call your mistress after her listed working hours. This is another sign of disrespect and red flag for her. If she doesn’t accept texts, don’t text her. If she doesn’t respond to blocked numbers, don’t be a smart ass and block your number. If your domme has her hours of availability listed and you’ve read them, don’t ask for an appointment outside of these hours. Respect ALL limits, rules and etiquette! If she requires 24 hour notice for booking, don’t contact her at 2pm and ask for a session at 3pm. If she requires information for her screening, provide her with it and make sure it is as accurate as possible. Not following instructions and being disrespectful is a sign of ignorance and stupidity. If she has to refer you to her website after each of your questions, you have failed!
CONTACTING YOUR DOMME NO ONE LINERS, NO FREE PHONE SEX
Once you’ve educated yourself on all of the requests and etiquette of the domme you selected to “pop your cherry” you can initiate the contact. Here are a few things you should be mindful of and never do during this process.
If you are contacting a domme via phone always begin with introducing yourself by first and last name and right after that let her know where you found her ad and what your interest is. Don’t elaborate too much. A simple “I am interested in the session you offer” is enough for her to get an idea of what you’re looking for. Never ask a domme “Is this…?”!!! You are the one who called her, so you have be the one presenting yourself and your purpose and listening very careful to her instructions and guidance. A few other no-brainers are: Don’t interrupt her, don’t ever ask for anything illegal and always address her as Mistress, Miss, Madame, Goddess etc. Another huge pet peeve dommes have is clients calling with questions like:
“What are you gonna do to me?”
This instantly puts you in the “bad client” list. It normally means you are looking for free phone sex, and dommes know it. You won’t get it!!! All you’ll probably end up with is a cold response, quick hang up and your dick in your hand…Oh and any chances of actually being in the presence of that domme are out the door. If you’re too nervous to meet for a session or you just want one over the phone, you will have to pay. Most dommes have the option to session over the phone and they have their prices for that service listed on their website. So be a doll and just follow the rules!
Often time’s dommes do not like to be contacted by phone. In that case look for an email or a form to fill out. One of the biggest rookie mistakes you can make when approaching a dominatrix via email is to write her one or two word emails. Things like “HI...”, “I want a session…”, or “You’re hot…” will most likely piss of your Domme and guarantee your email to be deleted without even a second look. Contacts like this say a lot about the person who writes them and every professional domme knows it. Firstly, it shows little to no respect for the process. Most of the time dominatrices have a personal website that they urge you to visit and read through before initiating a contact. If you didn’t take the time to read their website, why should she take the time to respond to you?!? Second, it shows your inability to follow instructions and obey simple rules. If you can’t do that, then you will probably not follow the directions your domme gives you during your session. Last but not least, it tells the provider you are not really serious and/or ready to dive into the world of domination. To sum this up, if you think you’re ready for your first encounter with a dominatrix, the number one rule is very simple -READ HER WEBSITE!!!
PERSONAL SLAVE = BROKE = NO DOMME
If you are so broke or cheap and you can’t afford to tribute your domme, but still decide to approach her with some question in the lines of “Can I be your personal slave?” or “How may I serve you (Without actually paying you for it)?” Be prepared for not so pleasant response, if you even get rewarded with one… If a prodomme needs a personal slave or someone to serve her for free, chances are she already has not just one, but a few of those. The lesson to learn here is, don’t be cheap, because the services and the company of a professional dominatrix aren’t!! If you can’t afford it at the moment, wait, save and then contact…
There are better alternatives then asking a pro to do her job for free. Here are some useful tips on what you can do instead of bugging your local dommes for free stuff:
Become active in your local BDSM community. Explore fetish parties, events and BDSM classes
Have a talk with your partner and see if they are interested in exploring some BDSM activities with you.
Find a partner that is open to BDSM
DO NOT NEGOTIATE OR ASK FOR A DISCOUNT…DOMMES HATE LOWBALLERS
Never contact a dominatrix and give them a shopping list of things you want in your session, then offer a very low rate. This just pisses her off and you may not even get a return email. Imagine if you went to a restaurant and wanted to order $300 worth of food and wine then you explain to your waiter you only have $50. Obviously, that would never work and you and I both know you would never ever try something like that, so don’t assume that will work with your prodomme. Haggling or negotiating over her prices is a huge RED flag, most dommes will see it as a sign of major disrespect and that you are probably not someone she wants as a client. If a domme is offering any discounts or multiple services, she will let you know. You asking for it may get you in big trouble. But then, maybe that’s exactly what you’re looking for…
CAN I…..
Just STOP right now! If you are about to ask a pro-domme any question related to any sexual activity, better just assume that the answer is no. Most professional dommes have very strict rules about engaging in any sort of sexual activity or nudity on their part. This is also one of the main things listed on their personal website. Asking a dominatrix for sex is probably the rudest, most disrespectful thing to do! That means you assume they are an escort, and oh man are you wrong!!! ProDommes are NOT escorts! Just because you saw some porno online where the dominatrix had sex with her submissive, does not mean that is going to EVER happen in real life, so never ask or assume. There are plenty of escorts who offer some sort of fetish related services and even some who specialize in combining sex with femdom, contact them if you are seeking that.
IF YOU NEED TO CANCEL…
You’ve passed the initial contact with your domme, you were lucky enough to set up your first appointment, good for you!!! Now you probably think, “I’m in! Nothing can go wrong anymore.” Not so fast! We all know that sometimes life happens, and plans get interfered with. The day of your appointment you get stuck in a meeting/traffic or you simply get nervous and petrified. That’s ok. Get ahold of your domme as soon as possible and let her know of your circumstances. Be respectful, apologize, especially if you are about to cancel. If you had to cancel, one of the best way to make up for a cancelled session is to send a gift to your domme. Visit her website, check out her wishlist, send an email gift certificate or simply send her the gift of cash via PayPal. Any of those will put you back on the good side and will buy you mercy.
DON’T BE LATE
Don’t be late and always show up on time! If the location of your domme is in a high traffic area, take that into account and leave early. We do understand that accidents and other unforeseen acts of nature do happen, which is fine, however what is not fine is not to call your domme who is sitting, waiting and thinking you flaked! Most dominatrices schedule sessions back to back, if you show up late don’t expect to get your full session, and do expect to be charged for a full session price.
DON’T BE EARLY
Never show up early…ever! Discretion is a big part of this business and to show up early is just plain rude. Understand, that she may be in a session with another client, or maybe she is still getting ready. If your meeting place is a dungeon then maybe the room she booked for your session is not ready yet. If for some reason you happen to be early ALWAYS contact her first, and request if she can see you earlier. Sometimes it is not an issue, or even preferable, but always ask first.
HYGIENE
TAKE A SHOWER!!! We realize that this may sound too obvious to even mention, but we want to stress the importance of your hygiene. All dommes take very great care of themselves and always make sure they are at their best when in session with a client and they expect the same in return.
NEVER ASK FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION
When seeing your Domme don’t ever ask for personal information such as
“Are you married?”
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
“Do your parents know you do this type of work?”
Or probably the most hated question:
“What else do you do?”
Think about what comes out of your mouth before you speak. None of that information is any of your business, and in regards to the question “What else do you do?” – Seriously, you just paid me a huge sum of money in a very short amount of time, why would you think I have any other job, and even if I did have a regular job do you think it is any of your business! Last thing a domme needs is having a customer show up at their place of work.
TIPPING – IS NOT JUST A CITY IN CHINA
At the end of your session, if you had an absolute great time - tell your domme. She will appreciate it. Don’t call after your session to thank her! An email or a text message is enough. One of the best ways to show how much you appreciated her time and/or enjoyed the session is by tipping. You may not know this, but if your session took a place in a Dungeon, your domme is probably paying a fee to use that space, and most often than not those are pretty pricy. A tip in that case is very much appreciated. A respectful tip is $20, $50 is considered a good tip. Don’t tip less than $20!
Article By: Shea Blackwell on Google+
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Slactivism at it's Best!
(Original post by Amy on ProvidingSupport.com)
We all shop at Amazon...don't try to deny it! And anyone who has made a purchase recently knows they are doing this wonderful charitable match thing now where you can select a charity to receive .5% of your total purchases as a donation from Amazon every quarter. Well, Sex Workers Outreach Project has just become one of those charities! If you don't know SWOP, check out www.swopusa.org or http://swopbay.org/ . Our local chapter has worked hard to help everyone affected by the MyRedBook closure, speaks out against shaming and john schools, and continues to do street-based outreach programs to help the least fortunate of us. If you would like to have your .5% go towards an organization that actively helps YOU and your community, you can follow these simple instructions!
1.) You (or someone else) buys something on amazon using http://smile.amazon.com or the following link: http://smile.amazon.com/ch/26-2264638
2.) They indicate they want to donate to Sex Workers Outreach Project.
3.) SWOP-National gets .5% of all donations at the end of each quarter!
It's pretty easy, and costs you nothing! Slactivism at it's Best!
~A
We all shop at Amazon...don't try to deny it! And anyone who has made a purchase recently knows they are doing this wonderful charitable match thing now where you can select a charity to receive .5% of your total purchases as a donation from Amazon every quarter. Well, Sex Workers Outreach Project has just become one of those charities! If you don't know SWOP, check out www.swopusa.org or http://swopbay.org/ . Our local chapter has worked hard to help everyone affected by the MyRedBook closure, speaks out against shaming and john schools, and continues to do street-based outreach programs to help the least fortunate of us. If you would like to have your .5% go towards an organization that actively helps YOU and your community, you can follow these simple instructions!
1.) You (or someone else) buys something on amazon using http://smile.amazon.com or the following link: http://smile.amazon.com/ch/26-2264638
2.) They indicate they want to donate to Sex Workers Outreach Project.
3.) SWOP-National gets .5% of all donations at the end of each quarter!
It's pretty easy, and costs you nothing! Slactivism at it's Best!
~A
Monday, August 4, 2014
New Book Coming Soom.
I just finished my first chapter.
This will be an easy to read manual with plenty of pictures and guides.
I won't guarantee that this book will raise your camscore thousands of points within a few months, or that in reading this you'll be in the top 20 on MFC in no time. But what I can promise you, is that I'll be honest in everything I've learned in my years of cam modeling, and give credit and special thanks to all of those I've learned from.
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Friday, June 27, 2014
Excellent Advice from @KylieCamGirl
This is a re-post originally made by KylieJacobs
You're able to blur out things on Google Street Maps like your house, face, or other objects.
So if you don't want you house to be visible for privacy reasons, you can request to have it blurred.
Here's a screen cap below, or you can go to the webpage for details here: https://www.yahoo.com/tech/how-to-erase ... 02294.html
Go to Google maps, type in your address, pick street view. Then click in the bottom right hand corner where it says "report a problem." You are then able to blur out your house or whatever else you feel necessary. Highlight the area that you want to blur with the red box that it gives you.
You're able to blur out things on Google Street Maps like your house, face, or other objects.
So if you don't want you house to be visible for privacy reasons, you can request to have it blurred.
Here's a screen cap below, or you can go to the webpage for details here: https://www.yahoo.com/tech/how-to-erase ... 02294.html
Go to Google maps, type in your address, pick street view. Then click in the bottom right hand corner where it says "report a problem." You are then able to blur out your house or whatever else you feel necessary. Highlight the area that you want to blur with the red box that it gives you.
Sunday, May 18, 2014
Applying Sales and Marketing Stategies from Vanilla Sources
Here's all of the best vanilla books, forums, and blogs that I can think of at the moment, which feel are a must read. I'll update this post as I remember and/or discover more. If you know of something I should add to this list, please let me know in the comments section:
Tuesday, May 13, 2014
Warning about taking custom orders on c4s
Just a warning for those of you who take custom orders on clips4sale. There's a guy that been ordering custom giantess fetish clips and doing charge backs the next month. A few girls have been doing custom giantess clips, and then got upwards of $200 deducted from their earnings the next month in charge backs.
So please be careful ladies when taking custom orders for those kind of clips.
Monday, April 28, 2014
Chase closing accounts of porn stars: Report
Link to OP: http://www.cnbc.com/id/101616944
Chase Bank is closing the accounts of hundreds of people who work in the adult industry, according to multiple reports
Celebrity blogger Perez Hilton posted images of the letters reportedly sent to stars in the adult industry informing them of the account closings. Hilton reported that the accounts would be closed on May 11, 2014.
Porn site sues Amazon over Fire TV name
Adult industry publication XBIZ also reported on the account closings, including an interview with one of the women whose account is slated for termination, porn star Teagan Presley.
XBIZ reported that they had not been able to reach Chase for comment.
TMZ.com reported Friday that Chase had closed the account of porn star Layton Benton, who told the site that Chase said her account was "a risk." Citing sources, the site reported that Chase is targeting specific types of transactions such as deposits from webcam shows.
JPMorgan Chase faced a lawsuit last year from the founder of soft porn studio MRG Entertainment that alleged the bank violated fair lending laws for refusing to underwrite a loan on the grounds of "moral reasons."
The outcome of the case was not clear Saturday.
Monday, March 31, 2014
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Sunday, March 30, 2014
Life Hacking: TRICKS TO SAVE MONEY
Well this post isn't just sex worker related, it can be applied to anyone, but I felt this advice should be shared on my blog anyways.
Info comes from teendayz.com
Here's a list of some tricks that you might not know about that will save you money:
Compress Your Data
If you don't have unlimited data on your phone, you probably live in fear of overage charges. Give yourself a little breathing room by downloading the free app Onavo. It compresses the data you use and tracks where you use your data so you can see where you use the most and adjust your habits accordingly.
How to Shop for Airfare
If you are planning a trip and are searching for airfare online, be sure to clear your browser history before looking up prices for flights. It has been discovered that sites will actually raise their prices if they can see that you are actively searching for flights! You can save about $50 on flights using this method.
Info comes from teendayz.com
Here's a list of some tricks that you might not know about that will save you money:
If you don't have unlimited data on your phone, you probably live in fear of overage charges. Give yourself a little breathing room by downloading the free app Onavo. It compresses the data you use and tracks where you use your data so you can see where you use the most and adjust your habits accordingly.
How to Shop for Airfare
If you are planning a trip and are searching for airfare online, be sure to clear your browser history before looking up prices for flights. It has been discovered that sites will actually raise their prices if they can see that you are actively searching for flights! You can save about $50 on flights using this method.
Sunday, March 23, 2014
Hawaii Law Lets Police Have Sex With Hookers
Hawaii Debates Whether to Let Cops Have Sex With Prostitutes in Order to Bust Them
Photo by Robyn Beck/AFP/Getty Images
Right now, it's legal in Hawaii for an undercover police officer to pretend to be a john, have sex with a prostitute, and then arrest her after the fact. Some legislators in Hawaii are not too happy about this and, in a new bill aimed at cracking down on prostitution, have attempted to get rid of the provision that allowed for it. But police leadership in the state is fighting back. The Associated Press reports:
Authorities say they need the legal protection to catch lawbreakers in the act. Critics, including human trafficking experts and other police, say it's unnecessary and could further victimize sex workers, many of whom have been forced into the trade.
Police haven't said how often — or even if — they use the provision. And when they asked legislators to preserve it, they made assurances that internal policies and procedures are in place to prevent officers from taking advantage of it.
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